How happy we are – DJ Tyler Stanton out of depression – NZ Herald

Hamilton DJ and online trader Tyler Staunton. Photo / Presented

Twenty young Kiwis tell their story about fighting depression in a new book, How We Are Happy. The Herald Sunday features three. Today, Hamilton DJ Tyler Stone.

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Co Geoffrey Stone Rawa Ko Juanta Williams Aku Matuwa
Ko Tyler Staunton tōku ingoa

I am always busy with something related to my work and physical health, and it helps me move forward. I love the challenge of improving myself.

Staying active to improve my personal health has been a challenge both mentally and personally. It turns bad days into good days and improves good days.

"I had time to live with my grandparents for six months, and it was wonderful because it gave me that feeling of home again." Photo / Presented
“I had a time to live with my grandparents for six months, and it was wonderful because it gave me that feeling of home again.” Photo / Presented

At the age of 22, I had my first big year on the market. I thought it would be great to work in such an industry, and the dream came true. It gave me a lot of confidence and I realized that I could achieve my goals. My boss was great, and I was so grateful to be there that I had to do everything I could. Here are some of the goals I have learned to achieve and that I enjoy working hard to achieve.

I will apply that lesson in my life now. I’m always thinking about the ideas I want to develop, and I’m developing new projects that will move me in the direction I want.

Taking care of my well-being is a mental, social and spiritual thing. For me, this big room is a family. That is the main thing. He will help me, keep me on the ground and keep my relationship.

It was a day when I realized that I could really get help from my family. They are very important to me. Probably a factor as to why they’re doing so poorly.

I had time to live with my grandparents for six months, and it was wonderful because it gave me that feeling of home again. While I was there, I made a real effort to change my mind. I turn around and try to think of everything from a mirror-half-full perspective.

At first it seemed really compelling (because) but I put in a lot of effort and I was committed to it. Within a few months, I found the positive attitude easier and more natural, which allowed me to focus my energy and effort on other areas of my life. I mean, my point of view. It was hard to do, but it was worth it.

Exercise "It turns bad days into good days and improves good days", Says Tyler.
Exercise “turns bad days into good days and improves good days,” Tyler says.

Another reason my family is so impressed is that my grandmother Ricky does. On my father’s side, my grandfather was definitely “my man.” We have a very close relationship, and I often go to him to talk about what is on my mind. His instincts and identities are unreal. Sometimes Grandma knows what is happening to me before I say anything.

We used to do Reiki often, and we still do it a lot. If I sign up and feel that a shift is coming, some will change, and then I ask myself, “Am I ready for it? Do I feel strong? ” And if not, then one of my options is to go see my grandfather.

The spiritual aspect is a big part of Reiki for me. I thought that I had no religious affiliation. Although I believe it has great power. Ricky is all about personal energy, and high energy can flow into your freedom.

When I visited my grandmother, I had no problem in my life. My visit to Grandma was a positive one. This was probably the most important lesson I learned from my grandmother, and I could use not only the bad ones but also Ricky in good times. Since then, I have applied this lesson to other aspects of my life, especially fitness and meditation.

Another thing that nourishes my soul is music. I like music. I was always recording songs on the radio and cassette tapes and bringing my new CDs to play with my school friends on classroom stereo. Playing and sharing music has always made me feel good.

I was a DJ at a few clubs in Hamilton, and I was thrilled to find music like a hobby on the weekends. Sometimes it can be hard to play in public, but I like to do it! It was a perfect hobby for me. There is pressure to protect the people and give them a good time to eat. It is a really good mental activity that gives positive emotions.

There is no place for a DJ to think of anything else. It is about developing the power in the club, expressing myself with my favorite music and shaking with the crowd to have a good time. The whole area feeds on my soul.

Since 2018, the tool I have used is meditation. I use an app called Headspace. At first, it was hard to meditate, and I was able to discipline myself to use the app regularly just by using the app’s basic training courses. For me, meditation is the opposite of DJ practice. To create emotions, I must learn to focus on the emotions and to acknowledge the inner person, rather than focusing on external factors.

Tyler's note for himself.  Photo / Presented
Tyler’s note for himself. Photo / Presented

Sometimes when I’m overweight, anxious, or stressed, meditation helps me focus on breathing and keep myself focused. For me, this is during difficult conversations, on a very busy day or when my mind is running at the end of the day.

When I am in this situation and these feelings arise, I have a place to briefly turn my attention to the basics that will help me stay calm and overcome any busy thoughts.

Practicing meditation on positive aspects of my life will help me to understand life and circumstances more confidently.

I think my environment has played a big role in my identity. My friends, workplaces, and home life all influenced me. Talking about my feelings, both positive and negative, takes courage, but if I know the environment is negative, I think it’s important to focus on changing time and energy – to work on it and improve it, or to avoid myself.

Opening is still important, and I know I still have to do it, but I know I feel better in the long run if I get it right and I live in a supportive environment.

In my experience, areas that need to be changed may not be as good as that friend or family member, or they may be as complex as a toxic workplace or home life. From past experience, once I changed the environment and created a positive, new environment, I noticed new waves of energy that I thought I would never find!

Once my energy is set to make that change, I can cry out for the consciousness of the new environment and use that energy for something fun. Making positive changes in my environment is one of the best influences on my mental well-being.

Making changes

Tyler Stone is a 25-year-old Kiwi from Rotterua. A native of Maori, he attended a boarding school in Hamilton before starting a radio station and running his own business.

A lifelong musician, Staston is a regular DJ at nightclubs in Hamilton, where he now lives. He runs and markets online businesses for a living.

He was depressed between the ages of 15 and 24. He lived in a boarding school, where he made many changes.

How did you feel?
In extreme cases, he cannot even take small steps.

Have you taken prescribed medication?
I took Prozac for a month. However, I did not feel comfortable with it because it did not seem natural to me. My grandfather offered to help and assist me without medication, and Ricky suggested a natural alternative.

Was it a turning point when things started to improve?
Yes. My grandfather was incredibly supportive and agreed to do Reiki’s healing for me. Before that, I went to a few friends, but I did not receive much support or understanding. The real turning point was not Reiki.

Getting my first job from university was another great step. After that I gained marketing experience, and that helped me even more to feel that I was moving forward.

• How We Are Happy – Health, Hope, and Happiness Stories of 20 Young Kiwis Beaten by Depression, by Jonathan Nabs and Eve McFarlen, Photo by Mark Hamilton, Bethany Books, RRP $ 39.99, Release Date 13.


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